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102: The 5 Essential Tools You Need To Build A Happier Mindset with Piret

• Amanda Russo • Episode 102

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What truly defines happiness, and how can we cultivate it amidst life's ups and downs?
 
In this episode, Amanda dives deep into the tools that can transform your mindset and cultivate lasting happiness. Joined by Piret, a happiness expert, author, and teacher of non-dimensional perception, they discuss how emotions shape our experiences and the practical strategies to embrace joy in everyday life. Whether you're looking to process difficult emotions, set boundaries, or explore happiness more deeply, this episode offers essential tools to help you build a happier mindset.

Piret shares insights from her journey, including the unexpected ways parents may discourage joy, the importance of emotional release, and actionable steps to build more happiness into your life. If you’ve ever struggled to find joy or want to reframe your mindset, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

  • What it means to be a happiness expert and how Piret found her path.
  • Why happiness doesn’t mean feeling joyful 24/7—and how to honor all emotions.
  • A surprising insight into how parents might unknowingly suppress their children’s happiness.
  • The role of boundaries in protecting your energy and mindset.
  • Five essential tools for emotional healing and cultivating happiness.
  • Why celebrating even the smallest wins can make a big difference in your mindset.
  • How Piret’s book, Joyful Life Jumpstart, helps readers release negativity and embrace joy.

Episode Highlights 

  • [3:00] – Who is Piret? Exploring her roots in Estonia and her journey to the U.S.
  • [12:40] – Emotions 101: Why sadness, fear, and anger are vital to our happiness.
  • [21:15] – How parents may unknowingly hinder a child’s ability to express joy.
  • [33:30] – The power of small moments and noticing everyday joy.
  • [42:20] – Setting boundaries with negativity to protect your mindset.
  • [55:00] – Piret’s five essential tools for transforming your mindset and cultivating happiness.
  • [1:10:15] – Celebrating wins, big and small: How it rewires your brain for positivity.


To Connect with Amanda and her Resources:


To Connect with Piret & her Resources:

  • Piret’s YouTube Channel: Piret Happiness Expert – Watch her insightful videos on happiness and non-dimensional perception.
  • Piret’s Website: By Piret – Explore her teachings, coaching services, and resources for cultivating joy.
  • Piret’s Book: Joyful Life Jumpstart: Learn the New Mindset That Will Help You Live Your Best Life – Available on Amazon.

You can watch this episode of the podcast HERE!

Speaker 1:

Welcome to Amanda's Mindset. I'm your host, Amanda Russo. Let me ask you what does happiness mean to you? Is it something you naturally feel, or is it something you work towards every day? Today, we're exploring what it really takes to cultivate lasting happiness. I'm joined by Pura, a happiness expert and guide, who's sharing five essential tools to transform your mindset and embrace more joy in your everyday life. Now let's dive in.

Speaker 2:

Welcome to the Manders Mindset Podcast. Here you'll find both monologue and interviews of entrepreneurs, coaches, healers and a variety of other people where your host, Amanda Russo, will discuss her own mindset and perspective and her guest's mindset and perspective on the world around us. Manders and her guests will help explain to you how shifting your mindset will shift your life.

Speaker 1:

Welcome back to another episode of Manders Mindset.

Speaker 3:

I'm your host, Amanda Russo, and I am here today with an awesome guest who I am so excited to speak to.

Speaker 1:

I am here with Pierrette, who is an author, a personal guide and a happiness expert, which I was so fascinated by when I first read that because I was intrigued as to what a happiness expert exactly was. She's also a promoter and a teacher of non-dimensional perception, and we're going to get into what that is as well. She's originally from Estonia and has been living in the US for the past 20 years. Her goal is to guide people on a journey toward a more fulfilling and happier existence, and she accomplishes this through her YouTube channel, her teachings, her writings and her personal guidance, and I am so thrilled to be here with her today. Thank you for joining me.

Speaker 4:

Hi Amanda, how are you?

Speaker 1:

I'm great. How are?

Speaker 4:

you, I'm doing good too. Thank you, I'm excited about our conversation.

Speaker 1:

Me too. So who would you say? Pura is at the core.

Speaker 4:

I'm generally why I'm'm saying that the happiness expert is just like what I do mostly. But I'm generally, I would say, interested in everything Interested in life, like enjoying life, and that's why I'm not a happiness expert. It's something that I enjoy giving to people, but otherwise I'm interested in everything in life.

Speaker 1:

That's awesome. So can you take us down memory lane and tell us a little bit about your family dynamic, childhood upbringing, however deep you want to go with that?

Speaker 4:

Oh well, I'm originally from Estonia, which is a little country between Finland and Russia, but, like you said, I've been living in the US for 20 years now, in Florida, so that's kind of most of my background in this way, but I've been a like I always say curiosity and all this For me. I've been a person who always likes to discover new things and go on adventures, go meet new people, be outside, traveling. So whatever experience or adventure is there to take, I'm for it right away.

Speaker 1:

That's awesome. Now, did you have any siblings growing up?

Speaker 4:

Yeah, I had two older brothers.

Speaker 1:

And how was that? Growing up with two older brothers?

Speaker 4:

You get spoiled Because you're the only girl. You're the only girl in the family and I was just not just being only girl in my family, my mom's sisters and everybody around they all had boys as well. So I was like really much like only girl around. So everybody was excited about that and I was one of the youngest as well.

Speaker 1:

Oh, so you probably got a lot of love and a lot of spoiledness.

Speaker 4:

Yeah, and protection as well from my older brothers. So it was like in a playground and everything Everybody knows. Don't mess with her because she has older brothers.

Speaker 1:

That's so sweet. And so how is high school for you, how is schooling for you?

Speaker 4:

Well, our schools are so much different in Estonia, to begin with, so our schools are so much smaller. All the structure, everything is different. So my school experience, especially high school, was awesome, like we were creating events, we were doing all kinds of craziness things. It's nothing like American schools, it's so much different. I still am in contact with, even from kids from my first grades, my kindergarten friends I still like right now we communicate if you do communicate through Facebook, but still there's communication there. That's so sweet, those relationships there. They stay really through your life, all through your life. For most of the people not just for me Schools are smaller and you get to be with your same people from first grade all the way to at least 10th grade and then high school as well, unless you move away to a different city or something like that.

Speaker 1:

That's awesome. Did you go to college post high school?

Speaker 4:

I did, but I did in a different school systems again. But back then I had three different hobbies. My hobbies were always like movie making, psychology and fashion. So for my after school college I actually went for fashion. So for my after-school college I actually went for fashion. So in my background I also did. When I first was in Florida for a while I did a little bathing suit collection, like two of them. That's why I'm using like more interested in all kinds of different things. So I've done a lot of really cool things in the past and that's, I think, what creates my happiness and that's how my happiness expertise comes from as well.

Speaker 1:

That's awesome. I love how you mentioned experience, and experience like in that creates and adds to the happiness. So how did you get into this happiness expert? You went to college for fashion and then where did the happiness expert come in?

Speaker 4:

Well, that's the thing with my hobby, with psychology. So that started really young age as well. I was reading all the psychology books, all kinds of different philosophers and things like that. I was reading emotional intelligence when I was 16. So from there on I have been always investigating. And then I was like reading and self-study, mostly self-study on all that, self-study, mostly self-study on all that. And then from there I started getting more into when I get to America, I got more into coaching. So I started looking more, coaching people and all that. And then I started going more into happiness and adding more knowledge about happiness.

Speaker 4:

Because for me, I'm one of those naturally happy people. You know, like they say, oh, they're just naturally happy, so I'm one of those. But when I was teaching others and I was working with others and just general conversation with everybody and my friends and other things, you see, not everybody has that. So my question was why can't they be just like me? And I was like looking, and there's reasons, it's not just easy, like not everybody is born with that, but there's ways to learn to have more of it in your life. And now that's why I was like how can I give them that as well. So I started studying more of it and teaching more of it, and when I was able to put the expert behind it was when I knew like if somebody will ask me a question, I can answer it. So it was like okay, I can say that I'm an expert because I can answer all those questions. Now I can say that I'm an expert type, because I can answer all those questions.

Speaker 1:

now I want to backtrack a tad. You mentioned coaching.

Speaker 4:

What type of coaching did you get into and when did you get into that? That was, I would say, now more than 20 years ago, and first it was just like personal coaching, like helping people through their setback, figure out what's going on in their life and how can they move forward, what can they do better, what was holding them back. And then you know, people just come. They come to like in a right, I'm there in the right place in the right moment and that person who needs me, that is just coming at the right time and I help them through whatever is going on in their life in that moment. But that was already also before I started learning coaching, because I was even younger age with my friends.

Speaker 4:

I was always the person when they had some kind of problems or something that was bothering them as serious as like eating disorders and something like that and like having panic attacks or relationships. They came to me to ask for advice. And I'm like 17, 18, to ask for advice. And I'm like 17, 18, 19 years old I've not even learned anything back then, I haven't even learned anything about it and they're coming to ask me for advice. So it's kind of always been there, naturally, and then I just added knowledge and certifications and things to it. So I have more of knowing, just also a form of curiosity, but also to have more tools to help them.

Speaker 1:

That makes sense. Now you mentioned how you're a naturally happy person and you uncovered that not everybody is like that, and I relate to that a lot because you know so many people in my life have always asked how are you so joyful going through X, y, z, how is your mindset still so positive even though you experienced whatever? This whole thing is? So how do you help people who don't have that naturally happiness feeling to themselves?

Speaker 4:

So, first, what I teach them as well from my own perspective and everything, is to understand that happiness is something that you're not supposed to be having 24-7. For me as well, what allows me to be happy is because I'm not expecting myself to be happy 24-7. I always go back to happiness. You know, like with the rubber, like I stretch somewhere else, it always goes back into happiness. But at the same time, there are sad moments, there's moments when I feel angry, there's moments when I feel scared and I let myself feel all those other feelings as well. But then I go always find a way to go back to the happiness, and that's what I teach them as well.

Speaker 4:

Those feelings that you have are okay. You have to process them and then you go back to finding the things what creates happiness and joy in your life. But you don't try to think that oh, only happy thoughts, only everything always have to be happy, because that's not being humanly possible, Because it's weird. If you're going to have somebody dying in your family and you jumping around like nothing happened, you still have to feel sad and process the sadness and all the things. And, like you say, how can you have all those other things going on and still be happy, because you allow yourself to process those other feelings too. But you don't get stuck there. You process them, you let them go through and then you find being back in a calmness and positive about what's coming up next.

Speaker 1:

I like what you said about not getting stuck there. I think that's key. You know and processing it, allowing yourself to feel it, and they say you got to feel it in order to heal it. You know and processing it, allowing yourself to feel it and they say you got to feel it in order to heal it. And you know it's like not having that toxic positivity of being happy 24-7, but also knowing you can feel it, you can process it and you can still go back to feeling happy.

Speaker 4:

And you can even cry. You know like crying is the root, the biggest relief, when something is really emotional, and crying doesn't have to be always negative. If you can find a way to cry because you're so happy that you're crying, you know something really good happens. And that emotion sometimes comes out as tears as well. The happiness tears they come out as well. Or when you're laughing so hard you're starting tearing up. So it's just tears are to release that emotion and if it's a sad emotion, then you release that sadness with your crying. But it's important because your body releases it and then it's outside of your body, it's not inside anymore and you feel so much lighter after crying, after releasing that other feeling. After crying, after releasing that other feeling, and with the happiness after you release that happiness, it spreads all around you, around your family, around other people, everything like this. So that's one thing as well People don't support.

Speaker 4:

They should not hold their happiness back either, because they should spread that out same way they're spreading well, and they should actually switch, not spread so much of when they're angry, but spread more when they feel happy.

Speaker 4:

Nobody has problems with spreading out their anger.

Speaker 4:

You know like they're angry and they get it on everybody, but like when they're happy, they just hold it back a little bit. And actually I figured out a lot of the things why people do hold back their happiness as well. Because when we're kids we're always being told like don't do this, don't laugh, don't get too excited. Like you know, when kids are running around and they're all over, they're really excited, really happy, and the parents are saying like don't go, don't run there, don't be like all those joy and everything is like I know there has to be an order, but there also had to be like some point where you allow them to do all those things of laughing and being joyful. You have to let them enjoy those things as well, because then they grow up and then when they're adults they know how to enjoy. Because if they don't learn as kids how to enjoy and how to show that happiness or they think that something's wrong when they do it then that's when they start holding it back and they're not going to do it as adults.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, that's so true. I like how you mentioned letting it out, like letting it out of your body and releasing it, whether it's crying, you know. I like how you mentioned to anger was so quick to release on other people and I think even releasing your own anger, whether it's screaming and not at someone, but just like letting it out, like when do we ever just yell? I don't think anger is a bad emotion or feeling if it's processed the right way, because there's certain things in life that, okay, yeah, you're angry over this, which isn't a bad thing, and allow yourself to feel the anger, allow yourself to process through it, not dwell on it, not sit on it, not put it onto somebody else, but just letting it out. So it's also not in your body, because our body holds onto things. Even if it's these feelings that we have, even if it's these emotions and not expressing it, it gets built up.

Speaker 4:

Exactly, and that's why we were saying that not to release on other people, anchor, is one of the things that you should not release on other people and that's the one that you have to release. But release it like you can have other people to hold the space for you to release it. You know, like they they're virtual, they help you. Like you were saying screaming okay, let's go somewhere in the woods or come in the car with me and scream in my car. You know, like, let it out.

Speaker 4:

And you're allowed to let it out and be angry and or just talk about what you are angry, like when I had some of the group sessions where people come and they just feel this space that I'm holding and sometimes the anger comes out, doesn't come out like with a burst of angry sayings, comes out as crying as well, and that's where they say they're holding space for anger and next moment it's just that person that you can see them holding and next moment they're like I am so angry and they just break down, they cry and they talk about all those things that are making them angry and you can see how it comes out and just releases and nobody has to do anything, they just have to hold the space to let them release that anger so it's not inside of them anymore. And it's so powerful to see because like how they feel afterwards after they release it all. Because if they hold it in, then a lot of time if they're inside the family, they take it out on their family, they take it out and it's screaming on their kids because then it doesn't really let it go out still, because they scream at their kids but they're not still letting out their anger. Anger still stays, even if they scream at their children or they try to scream at their wife or husband or whoever it is, it still stays in. So you have to find a place preferably somebody, a person that holds the space for you and doesn't have to give advice, just to hold the space for you, to talk what makes you angry and let it all out.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I like how you mentioned too about sometimes anger even shows up as crying. You know it can show up in many different ways and it might not look like the quote unquote anger at the surface. You know I facilitate something called breathwork detox and at the end of it we do what's called a CO2 dump where we tell them to grab a pillow and just release it all, whether that's screaming, shaking, crying, like letting go of any buildup emotions that are still in there. And it's one of the most powerful things ever, because so many and I work with a lot of women, so many women are taught not to yell, that it's bad to be angry, to quiet your voice, to silent your voice. You shouldn't say these rude things or even like, oh, that's a bitchy comment. Sometimes just letting out a scream, screaming into your pillow, is such a release. You know it doesn't have to be like I'm screaming at you because I'm upset with you. I could just be releasing this anger.

Speaker 4:

Yeah, and that's the main thing about with all the emotions they need to be processed and released, not controlled. The way people say controlling the emotions is not as right, because you don't need to control them, you have to manage them and process them. So that's pretty much that's what the control is. It doesn't mean that you're controlling your emotions by not feeling them, but controlling your emotion is managing them and processing them.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I want to backtrack a tad. You mentioned about how not silencing the kids when they are excited and they're happy, and because that builds and creates adults basically that can't express their emotions and personally not from my mom, but so many people in my family I always heard the cry it down or you're being too loud, because I was always very expressive towards becoming expressive again, because it's something I shut down for so long, which it was such a subtle and not even harmful comment that was said to me. But it's like quiet down, Like you got to be quiet here, and it's we're creating kids to not be able to show their happiness, agreeing now to be adults that don't feel like they can show it, you know, to be adults that don't feel like they can show it, you know.

Speaker 4:

And that's exactly what we're having a problem. Now you have all this generation of adults who think that showing their joy and happiness is not allowed. A lot of them they are actually happy, but they feel that they're not supposed to be showing it, they're supposed to be holding it back. They should behave in a certain way. It's not appropriate, like they even say, like if you're showing that you're happy when in front of somebody else, well, maybe they're not happy and you're making them feel bad. First of all, we have to take away it's not true, because you're supposed to be showing the happiness and then they're gonna have to see you showing the happiness and they will learn from that and later on they're gonna be able to show their happiness as well, maybe not in that moment, but later, when something happened, happy happens in their life, they're gonna be able to show it as well because they learn from you.

Speaker 4:

So we just have so many adults who are and that's what I'm working on as well so many adults. They actually their life. They're living a good life. I would like most of the things are good in their life, but they don't allow themselves to say that they're happy or they don't allow themselves feel happy about all those good things that they have. You know, and that's why I say to people, I say and I teach you're allowed to be happy and you're allowed to be expressing your happiness.

Speaker 1:

You know, I think some people could even feel that, that fear of not wanting to seem like they're bragging or like they're showing off. You know, like we have this culture in social media nowadays that a lot of people seem like they are like just trying to get a quick like. And you know, I think some people could have the mindset of I don't want to portray this happiness out there because I don't want to look like I'm egotistical.

Speaker 4:

Yeah. So we kind of have to get away from that, and that's what I'm trying to teach now as well. And I was just thinking about it a few days ago, I started thinking about this one when you see a woman going around let's say a woman meeting in a gym or something like this when they go there and they say like, oh, this part of my body doesn't look good and this part of my body doesn't look good, it's like women go like this and they communicate and connect like this in a gym. Okay, but now look at the men. What do men do in a gym? They flex out. Look at my muscles, look at my muscles, look how strong I am, look what I can do. Like they complete a different mindset, you know, and I think women should go like this in a gym as well, or like other things in their life as well. Go and show.

Speaker 4:

Even in the business, men always show off, show off. You know, men always try to show off and women right now hold back. So if women have to, they have to show off as well. They have to allow that other woman to show off too. You know they should be okay if somebody else is showing off and it takes takes a little bit of time to get over that jealousness feeling, because I have it.

Speaker 4:

Everybody has a little bit of a jealousness, like okay, they get to have all those things. But to understand that jealousness is not towards that person but it's more like the feeling that I want to have those things too. So you kind of have to think about it, like the feeling comes from wanting those things too, and maybe try to find a way how could you have it? Or just come in a realization that I can't have all that but I can have my own things. You know I have my own things and realize more about what you have your own and feel good that they have that and also feel good about the things that you have. But it takes time to relearn all those pre-learned old emotions, you know.

Speaker 1:

I love how you said that it takes time to relearn. You know that's with everything Like rewiring our brains to relearn, whatever it is like what we've been taught, what's been said to us, even like myself, retraining myself and it's taking time to be able to express myself, be more comfortable being loud, when for so long it was something that was shut down in me. You know, do you have any suggestions for anybody to feel safer to express their happiness If it's not comfortable right away.

Speaker 4:

If it's not comfortable right away, you start with small things. That's what I would say. Start with small things. Start noticing what does make you feel happy, like even a small thing, like walking your dog, and you feel happy about it. Realize that I feel happy right now, or just sitting down and eating something that you like or having your favorite drink. So just sit there and notice that I feel happy right now. Just notice those little moments when you feel happy and you just smile about it. If you notice when you're happy, those little moments when you're happy, you notice that and you allow yourself to have that. When you're happy, you notice that and you allow yourself to have that, then next thing I would say is well, allow other people to be happy too. It's like kids are your relatives, and if you see there's something good about their life, when they're sharing something good, be happy with that. For me it's easy, but for some people it's harder. Some people they feel like jealousy about it or something this. And there's even people who don't like to see other people happy at all. They like.

Speaker 4:

As soon as somebody starts talking about something that makes them happy, they start bringing them down they start saying oh, it's nothing, or start saying some bad comments about it.

Speaker 4:

So you kind of have to set boundaries and let those, whatever those people are saying, don't take it personally, don't even let it get in your mind. Sometimes it still gets in your mind because your mind, just your brain, just records it. Your brain is a little recorder and just takes those words in. But then you have to process and say that those negative things that they were saying they were not actually directed to me, they were something that were inside of them bothering them. So you just have to learn not to take it personally. If somebody says something not nice which you know is not true, if they say something like correcting something that you actually know that you did wrong, you have to take responsibility for that. But you know, a lot of times we just know that they say some bad comment just to make you feel bad, and if you know that's the case, then you just have to say that okay, that's not personal, that's their problem, has nothing to do with me.

Speaker 1:

Not personal. That's their problem has nothing to do with me. I like everything you mentioned there. So noticing and becoming aware of what makes you happy, whether it's the small things, whether it's walking your dog, something, you're drinking, anything, allowing yourself to feel it and allowing other people to feel happiness I love that one. I don't think I've heard that. I've heard people talk about happiness and joy and how to increase it and embody it more. I don't think I've ever heard anybody mentioning about allowing other people to be happy and embracing it. I took from what you said there as well when other people experience happy moments in their lives, encouraging their happiness and buying into it, giving them that encouragement, giving them that positive reinforcement I love that.

Speaker 4:

When I work with them, or even with my friends as well, it's like when they have something good happen in their life. I tell them the same thing Enjoy this moment, allow yourself to enjoy it, be proud of it. You accomplished something. Be proud of that little thing that you did. It seems little to you, but it's actually a big thing. Celebrate those little things. Celebration doesn't have to be that you're celebrating with a party or something. Celebration is also if you acknowledge that something is good. That's a celebration.

Speaker 1:

Yes, yes, I love that. I love everything you said there. You know, I think a lot of us are so quick to accomplish a goal or hit a task and just move on to the next thing and even if it's a small thing, it's like allowing yourself to experience that happiness and hell, even if it is like jumping up and down and like this stuff and letting your body feel that happiness. You know, it doesn't have to be a huge grand old celebration, but it's like life gets harder times and I think a great way to shift your mindset is feeling these and celebrating these small wins, whatever they may be. If you handled something better than you would have in the past, if you loan something new, if you like, it doesn't have to be this big grand old. Like. I started my own business, I created a podcast, like it can be. I hit a walk, you're at the gym. It can be something little, you know, like, like.

Speaker 4:

Even this I did the dishes Bravo, I was in gym fit, I did the dishes or whatever. I did the dishes Bravo, I was in the gym, I did the dishes or whatever. I did the laundry. It's like small things like that. It's just like give yourself a little gratitude. And that's another thing as well. We always look for gratitude from somebody else, like I'm thankful for myself. If I get some little things done, I say tell myself thank you. You know, I'm not looking somebody else to thank me for like little things that I do for myself. Or even if I do something for somebody else and they don't say thank you, I still say thank you for myself, you know.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I love how you said that when, like focusing on the good, the more you focus on the good, the more good you're going to see. And I love how you mentioned telling yourself thank you. I think that's so key, Even when we do something or accomplish something, saying good job to ourselves. You know, I don't know if you've heard of Mel Robbins, but she has this. Yeah, she has this. I don't know if it's a saying. I think there was even a book she wrote about high-fiving the mirror and giving that physical good job, like reminding yourself. Even, like I had mentioned jumping up and down, which might seem like an extreme thing, your body sees and feels this change of like. Yeah, this is awesome Like hell. Yeah, you know of like. Yeah, this is awesome Like hell. Yeah, you know.

Speaker 4:

Because your body actually has a natural way of expressing happiness. You've seen how, like some moments where people like win something or even small wins and things like that, and they have this feeling of like even singing or dancing, like you say, the little dance, it just comes naturally. Or they feel like hugging somebody, or they feel like even kissing somebody. In that moment you see the people like something really good happens and they just go and hug and kiss people and like all this with the happiness. So that's the way to express it and it should be more allowed and okay in a society. It's okay and we should encourage it. We would talk about a lot of happy-ass things and then people go like but they don't feel this way. Then they go back and I'm like I don't make it complicated, I always just go sadness, fear and anger, and it's okay when those feelings come around too.

Speaker 4:

Now you have yourself this happiness, but then it's okay. If some days you don't have this happiness and you're sad, then you let yourself to be sad for that moment. It's okay. If some days you don't have this happiness and you're sad, then you let yourself to be sad for that moment, but again, like the most you just want to make sure that the most of the time you're in the happiness feeling, that's when the and the positive happiness and it's kind of like encouragement towards the enthusiastic view of future. So you have to create that for yourself, that think of like yes, future can be better and how can it be better? You have to believe that if things are not okay right now, there's something that you can do, small steps or something towards make things better yeah, no, I love that, and focusing on what you can do, not what you can't.

Speaker 4:

You know, like whatever the small step is exactly because when people think, oh, and even me like, when I'm thinking like big jumps, like oh, I want to be there one day, this is what I want to be doing, I still have to understand it takes time and it takes steps to get there, as much as I want it to happen right now in here. Some of those things are just not possible to be happening right now, but they make me make goals, little goals, to achieve those other things. So, like, step by step, I have to go. If I want that big thing, there are steps I have to take. Be okay if some of the things don't happen.

Speaker 4:

You know like it's really hard when some things don't happen. Or something completely different happens when you make plans and they all those plans get messed up by something else that happens. And then you just I call those things, I learned to call those things adjustments, so it's just adjustments by life and you don't get stuck Like, okay, it didn't happen, so it's not supposed to happen. You just have to find a way. Well, maybe something else should come out of it, or maybe I should do it differently Instead of just settle like, oh, it's not supposed to be happening, so now I'm not doing nothing. So you just figure out just and think about, like either I'm supposed to be doing a little bit differently or either I have to do something different.

Speaker 4:

And I like also when they were saying that if you get tired, you don't quit, you just take a break. You know, if just take a break, you know you take a break and it's okay, you take a. You have to pause yourself and your body just needs even like one full day let's say you have all day full of things that you need to be doing and one moment your body just can't do it anymore, it wants to take a break. You just have to figure that you have to allow yourself to do that, because if you keep on pushing towards still doing all those things, sometimes it's okay if your body can still do it, but if your body tells you, no, you need a break, then you have to allow yourself, like your 15-minute break, two-hour break, then you have to allow yourself, like your 15 minute break, two hour break, whatever it is. You have to allow you to just do that, because and that's also something all those things are things that you have to slowly start bringing in your life. Then you're not going to change, like today you're one way and tomorrow you're different, kind of like that.

Speaker 4:

But like they still have more practice, and practice until it becomes natural for yourself to have more like positive mindset instead of being angry all the time or being scared all the time. So those little steps, noticing when you feel happy and allowing yourself to have that feeling to begin with. But I think that, because what happens is well, your body and your brain and your whole being starts liking those little moments and starts looking for more. It's like how can I have more of this? How can I have more of this? It's like how can I have more of this, how can I have more of this? And it starts like bringing you to those moments and experiences where you can actually have more of those moments because they feel good and your body wants them.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I want to touch on something you mentioned there that I think a lot of people don't talk about is being okay if something doesn't happen and the adjustments. You know, because we all have so many different goals and all my listeners listening to the podcast so into self-development and leveling up their life in some area or another. But I think that is so key and I love how you mentioned too, maybe something else is meant to come out of whatever this is Like you're pursuing a certain goal, a certain passion, whatever. If you don't achieve or hit X doesn't mean you won't achieve or hit something that you meant to along the way.

Speaker 4:

Yeah, and like you have this big goal and you have it set in a small section, let's say, first thing went good, second thing didn't go good, and then you give up on all the things. No, you just have to understand that only that second thing didn't happen the way you planned to happen and you go through a third one and you can still achieve the big thing that you have in plans. So just like if one small step on there didn't happen, that doesn't mean that your big goal is not achievable. You can still get the big goal. You might just have to get it a different way, find a different road to get there.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I love that there's the different ways to the same goal, even travel wise, like we can all get to the same place. You had told me you're in Florida. There's multiple ways to get to Florida. You can take a plane, a train, a bus, a car. There's multiple ways to even get to the same physical destination. So like multiple people can achieve the same goals, whatever it is in life, by going different routes to get there.

Speaker 1:

And I also liked how you mentioned about adjustments, because I think and this is something I myself have struggled with a lot as I get this mindset of I'm going to do X Y Z and if X Y Z goes slightly and it's just X Y, I don't necessarily like that. But you know, I had a guest very early on in the podcast and I had asked her if she had a suggestion for people who, if they were trying to meet a goal and were struggling, and she said maybe the goal isn't meant for you, maybe it's not something you're meant to do, which I kind of feel like I got from what you were saying there, like it might not be something we're meant to pursue and it might lead us down a different path of pursuing something else, if that makes sense yeah, and that can be a case as well.

Speaker 4:

so you have to figure out is that for yourself? You have to figure out, like, is it something that's not meant to be, or is it something that you still want to do and you find I have to find a different way to do it? So that's for yourself, to adjust to your feelings and see which one it is. Because, like I was saying, in the past I was doing a bathing suit collection, but that was part of my life as well, and now I'm not doing that at all. That was part of my life in the past and now I'm doing all this happiness and teaching and all this psychology thing. That was also part of my hobby. So that was one part of my past and one part of my journey. And then you have different parts of your journey doing something completely different.

Speaker 1:

That makes a lot of sense. So what would you say happiness means to you?

Speaker 4:

For me it's just a way of just being. I don't give it like some really big meanings and something like magical or all it or something. It's just a feeling, good feeling that things are going to be fine in the future. Things that happen there, they I can leave them in the past. They happen, it's okay, I'm fine with it.

Speaker 4:

Not everything, like there's not a single person in earth who had everything perfectly happen in their life could be people who had, like, most of the things perfectly, but not the person who's like everything was perfect. You know there are still struggles of this, that and same way with me, but in general it's your attitude towards life, but it does build up on those things that happened in your past. So if somebody I'm going to right now from happiness point of view if somebody had only bad things in the past, like growing up in a bad environment and all this, so for them, how to find happiness again was the same questions that you asked for me what is happiness for me? So they have to figure out what is happiness for them and not to go so much about what the general idea of happiness is. So that's what for me, like you were asking, I feel happiness just from being.

Speaker 4:

But small things will make me happy, like when my daughter is laughing at silly things, that makes me happy, because she's laughing. When my cat jumps on my lap and wants me to pet her, that makes me happy. If I'm able to help some of my friends with something that makes me happy, if some of my friends help me with something that makes me happy. So I've already learned all those little things. You know, I talk about those little things. I learned to notice those little things in my life that make me happy, and I want more of that all the time.

Speaker 1:

I love that. That's awesome. So I'd love if we could transition a little bit. But I know you are an author and you wrote a book and, honestly, reading the title of the book made me happy, because it said Joyful Life Jumpstart, and then a subtitle was Learn the New Mindset that Will Help you Live your Best Life, and I instantly smiled reading that. I loved it. So can you tell us a little bit about your book, how you decided to write it?

Speaker 4:

backhills anything you want to tell us about it. It just started to come together naturally. Naturally I felt like I need to be writing this, so I started writing it on the sides, a little bit here, a little bit there, and started coming together right away as the full book and it's more like this. One is more like a workbook, so it has pages that you can fill in, there's questions that you can answer and all the things. But it helps you to understand how to learn from the past, like what happens, analyze your past and then analyze where you are right now, like what's happening in your life right now, and then make plans like how do you want your future to be? But it's all from the positive point of view. So you have the negative things that happened in your life, but you don't have to carry with them through all your life. Like you know how many times we carry something that's happened to us when we were children. We still talk about that one thing that happened when we were five carrying and we've been carrying it for like now 20 years. But it takes tools, different type of tools and learning how to let it go. Sometimes I had used some of the tools as we were writing a letter like readjusting that moment. There was something that when I was a kid, somebody said, and I was writing a letter from that person saying completely the opposite as it was said by them. So that will help to get rid of that saying. That has been in my head for 20 years just because somebody say but like things like that or something happened and you just had to find a way to release it, maybe with meditation or sound healing. There's different types of tools for each situation that you've been carrying with you, like traumas and all this. But, yeah, it's important not to carry them with you. And now I've learned, like most of the things, what happened, like yesterday or something now, when I've already been practiced for a long time, now, when I've already been practicing for a long time now, the new things that have happened, I leave them right away in that moment or right the next day or something like this. I don't take them with me to the next moment or the next day or anything like that. So as fast as I can leave them behind, I leave them behind right away. I don't take them with me.

Speaker 4:

And also, when we go to what I think that I teach the end-dimensional perception for people to understand that our body is actually like our physical 3D body is actually always in the present moment. Our body can't go past or the future. It's always in the present moment. It's only our mind, not even our brain, but only our mind, who can access the memories from the past and ideas and images that we have for the future images that we have for the future, but reality in our manner, our dimensional 3D body and everything. Our body is actually multidimensional as well, but we mostly see the 3D body, but it's always in this moment or now. It's already the next moment. Now it's already the next moment. So the moment moments move around, but it's still always in now. So we have to understand that the past is already gone, it's not here anymore and the future is something that we are creating.

Speaker 1:

That makes a lot of sense. That's awesome, though, and I want to read a quote that you have at the front of the book that I loved, because it reminded me of something very similar that I myself say a lot, but the listeners, my clients, everybody hears me say all the time we're here, then we're not, because we're all going to die one day and you have in here one day, you are going to die. How do you want to live before that? I love that, you know, and it's like not morbidly, but I've been thinking so much more about death and end of life as I've gotten older, and I'm still pretty young, I'm only 28. But it's just like you know, none of us are living forever, regardless of your beliefs. Like past life, reincarnation, what have you like in this body? As Amanda and Russo, I'm living once. So you know, like, how do I want to do it? How do I want to live?

Speaker 4:

while I'm here. And you know, actually, people, that's the hard part for people to acknowledge because people are scared of the dying thing. So it was actually because you were saying that title, that one that I have inside for a subtitle, and that was actually in front of that book In my first editions. It actually in front of the book In my first editions it was in front of the book. The one day you are going to die, how do you want to live? Before that was actually in here. That's the second edition because people didn't like to read the dying part in the front in the beginning, so that one didn't sell as good as the new subline with learning to learn, the new mindset.

Speaker 1:

Wow, I'm speechless at that, I can't say. I'm surprised, though, because you know, mindset is such a catchy term. I host a mindset podcast, but like it is such a catchy term, I host a mindset podcast, but like it's such a catchy term. You hear like mindset, shift your mindset, have a better, all these different things about like mind, the brain, whatever People don't. A lot of people don't talk about that. Oh, it's more taboo. So, wow, and you switched it.

Speaker 4:

Yeah, I switched it because there were people who didn't like that In the front of that. They're okay with having it inside. It's okay to have it inside because then they're already like okay, now I get it. But in the front they didn't like it. It didn't sound like there's a difference between how it's solved with that one and how it sounds with learn the new mindset.

Speaker 1:

Now did you ask for feedback, or what made you make that change, Like how do you know people?

Speaker 4:

I think how I noticed it. I think I noticed it. I didn't ask for feedback, but I noticed it from the sales. So I noticed that it was not selling as, and I noticed the people's attitude as well when they were reading it. You know, intuition wise, I like, when I saw people like reading it, you can see them like almost like having that fear of death, like reminding them about dying, like you're that moment, and then maybe it makes even sense. They're not the world. If you think of something that tells you that you're going to die, which is you have to come in realization that one day it will happen. So it is all about how you are having this experience and what you are doing now. You know, like you were just saying, how do you want to live this life? I want to live as long as possible, like I'm hoping, like over 100, and I want to make it awesome. You, you know.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, I get it, I love that, though, you know, I think that's such a great mindset and way to look at life is like, not in the negative perception of knowing and focusing on death, but just knowing that you're here, then you're not. And what do you want to do while you are here? You know I had and this is probably my favorite question I've ever been asked, but I had a guest ask me. Like you know, it's deeper than just what you want to experience in life and what you want to do, but it comes down to, at the end of your life, when you're sitting back, looking back on life, what is going to make you shed a tear and be so happy that and grateful that you experienced these moments? Like, what is that for you? Is it having kids and starting a family? Is it traveling the world? Is it becoming this successful corporate lawyer? What is it for you? Like, everybody's different, but what would it be for you?

Speaker 4:

For me. I have little experiences, like little things that you say yes, like have you ever watched that movie? I think was what was the movie? With who? It was A yes man or something like that, when he was saying yes to everything. Not exactly like this. But the more things that you say yes and you're curious about, I've done so many out of nowhere situations, let's say, even for job-wise.

Speaker 4:

There was a moment that was like doing different jobs. But there was a situation where I had opportunity to do a mock trial, which is like where they pretend to have a trial to find out the community's responses to certain subjects, and I signed up to do it just because I was curious. It was an awesome experience and it just took one day out of like half a day, half of my day, to have this different experience in my life. And that's how I built my excitement and things in my life Going to some kind of event, not expecting anything, just going there and experiencing it. And if you don't like the event, you don't like it. You didn't like this one. You go to the next one and you learn which ones you like and you start going to the ones that you like and you know you're going to like, or going to and take your dog for a walk in a different park, in different environment, just like little things like this in your life, then you can add and experience something out of your routine. So your day is not always the same way like mostly, even if most of the days might be the same way. You have to find ways to have more excitement and that's what for me, what makes me most happiest, is that feeling of that excitement and doing something different, or even meeting and talking with somebody new, with somebody new, and sometimes for some people and that's sort of our work as well some people have this anxiety, this social anxiety, where they're not comfortable with talking with other people. So that as well takes a little bit of work to work through it and starts with small conversations and starts feeling more comfortable with it.

Speaker 4:

A lot of people get almost over it when talking with me because I make it comfortable for them to do it. So when they're already comfortable doing it with me, then they can go and do the same thing with somebody else. You know it's just like you're making them feel comfortable and that's what you can give to others as well Make them feel comfortable being around you. So when you make the other person feel comfortable being around you, they just automatically want to be more of the same environment and more of the same kind of people around them around you and you're just inviting more positive people around you. So because if you have more negative people around you, they will bring you down people around you, they will bring you down and it's really hard to be around only negative people. You probably have experienced that.

Speaker 4:

When it's like negative people around and they're just complaining about something, it just brings you down and down and it's just like what do I feel like? How can I get away Like I don't want to be here and all the things like that? What do I feel like? How can I get away Like I don't want to be here and all the things like that? Instead of if you have somebody who's like just talking about light things or good things and just being, just having fun and enjoying, that brings out more good feelings. But again, I have to like what comes in my mind to bring down and say that's what you want most of the time.

Speaker 4:

You still have to understand that there's some moments when somebody needs somebody to be there for their sadness and you're holding their place, for that. Happiness is something you want to share with everybody and you want to add everybody to enjoy it at the same time. But those other feelings sadness, fear and anger those. You want to hold the place where they can release it, but you don't take it on top of yourself and you don't spread it all around and leave it there for everybody else to want to feel the same way. You process it yourself with holding a space. But happiness is what you want, like everybody, to accumulate and spread around from one person to another and another. But for those other people, other feelings, you hold this space and you let it release and then you just let it disappear.

Speaker 1:

Now I'm the same way in terms of experiences. You know how you mentioned just experiences make you happy. It took me a long time to get to this point in my life, but now if there's something I want to do, an event I want to go to, even if my friends or people in my life won't go with me, I'm just going to go. I've shifted and got this mindset of if I want to experience certain things, I'd rather still get to experience it than miss out on it because somebody else didn't want to do it with me.

Speaker 1:

You know, what comes to my mind is I recently did cow yoga. I drove pretty far to do cow yoga at this farm and none of my friends would go with me because I drove two hours to do yoga in a farm with a bunch of cows. But it was so cool, it was such a fun experience and you know some people think I'm crazy, which maybe I am a little bit, but in 3040 years, when I'm much older, I'm going to look back on these pictures and be like, damn, you know what. That was so fun that I went to cow yoga and cheese and crackers after, and everybody was so friendly and it was just a unique experience that I won't get to just do every day, you know, out of the normal routine.

Speaker 4:

Yeah, and you're right, that's the thing. And you experience so much happiness and you know those people are asking, amanda, why you're so joyful when all those things are going. Because of things like that you do, you know how to do those things and you allow yourself to do the things that you feel that you're going to enjoy. It's not for everybody, maybe, but it's definitely something that I would go and do as well, because it sounds crazy cool. But other people who don't feel like doing that, they have to find what are their things that they would like to do, because that kind of experiences are what make your life joyful. You know it's true, and the more you can have them and you know how it is you feel that inside, like when you're there with those cows and you feel so silly and everything is like.

Speaker 4:

Some might think you're crazy, but that is not craziness, that is the joyful feeling. And some people do say like, oh, it's crazy. No, that is a joyful feeling and I allow myself to feel this way. So if somebody else can't allow themselves to feel like this, that's not your problem, that's their problem that they can't allow themselves to feel this way Because you allow, you are allowed to feel this way and you are allowed to feel joy from this. Like I'm not going to say Christy, but it's an awesome thing to experience.

Speaker 1:

I love how you mentioned figure out what it is for you and what experiences you want to experience. You know, and it might not be for other people and, like I love how you mentioned previously, there's just certain negative people in the world and you know it's just a part of life. Just a part of life, but who you surround yourself with will affect a lot. Removing negative people or influences that aren't supporting your life, or up leveling your mindset can really help increase your happiness, you know and so like, if, of course, you can't eliminate, like, leave those people, some other people, from how to help life.

Speaker 4:

Some of them you can, and if you can, you absolutely, and some of them you absolutely can and have to those negative people, but if you can't, then you have to make boundaries.

Speaker 4:

Because you have to make boundaries and you can't let, because there's some people who just come around and they just start saying negative things and complaining and trying to get you in there as well, and you just walk away and you have some people saying, like, if that's what you want to talk about, I'm not here for this, I'm not going to support you for that. A lot of times for my work or coaching work, I already give them advice how to get over that problem, and if they're not taking that advice, they're not doing anything about it. They just like complaining about that problem. That's their comfort zone. They don't want to change, they like to complain. They want to complain, they want to keep on complaining about it. So I'm like, hey, you want to complain about it, find somebody else to complain about it, for I'm not going to be here holding space for you complaining, because I already gave you the tools to fix this situation.

Speaker 1:

Well, thank you so much for speaking with me. I really appreciate it. This sounds awesome.

Speaker 4:

Yeah, I like speaking with you as well. I like your questions. It was a really nice conversation, together with giving people some more tools. Hopefully people get out of like more ideas, how to feel happiness and how to understand that you don't have to be 24 hour, 24 seven, happy and happy thoughts only. You have those other emotions for a reason as well, but I find ways to be more happier than those other feelings and don't get stuck on those other feelings. Feel them and process them and let them go, but try to feel more happiness and pay attention on more of the moments when you feel happy.

Speaker 1:

That's so true. Now have you heard of a man named Jay Shetty? Yes, so he's got a podcast called On Purpose and he ends his podcast with two segments and I've incorporated those to my podcast. First segment is the Many sides to us. There's five questions and they need to be answered in one word each.

Speaker 4:

Okay.

Speaker 1:

Number one. What is one word someone who was meeting you for the first time would use to describe you as?

Speaker 4:

Interesting.

Speaker 1:

Number two. Number one what is one word that someone who knows you extremely well would use to describe you as Supportive? What is one word you'd use to describe yourself Excited? What is one word that, if someone didn't like you or agree with your mindset, would you use to describe you as Thanks?

Speaker 4:

Because they know some. But they know that I'm right and they know the positive as well. So that one is the hard one because even though they don't want to like me, they still like me because they like what I do. But let me say, if they would not like me I don't have many of those around that they like. So what would they say? I would say maybe it would be too out, like if somebody not comfortable with somebody being like too outgoing, so they will say maybe too much out there, like too much expressive or something I would not know. Because, yeah, they like some people who are like usually like not as happy people.

Speaker 4:

I find it because I'm already know like with the happiness sector, I can see the things that make them happy. So I bring those things up for them. So they start to like, feeling like oh, how to like? How does she know that and how does she know that? So I'll bring those little things out that make them happy and bring them towards them and start talking about them and they start. You can see that they're feeling good about it and I've had some a lot of times in the workplaces or like in groups of people. I talk with that person that usually nobody likes and I talk with that person and like nobody likes and I talk with that person and that person usually starts liking me as well. And other people are like why does she like you? Or she doesn't like anybody? Because I know how to talk with them and bring out the things that they like, make them see the life a little bit differently.

Speaker 1:

What is one word you're embodying right now?

Speaker 4:

Bigger change. Oh, that's two words Bigger changes, changes.

Speaker 1:

The second segment is the final five and there's five questions and they can be answered in up to a sentence. What is the best advice you've heard or received?

Speaker 4:

It was. Actually. I really changed it. It was that if somebody offers you something, you accept it. And I changed it for myself. I said if somebody offers me something good, then I will accept it. You know, but they were like I remember a long time ago somebody said they were giving me something good, then I will accept it. You know, but they were like I remember a long time ago somebody said they were giving me something and I was saying if somebody gives you something, you have to accept it. In my mind, I was changing it, for is it something good that I accept it? Is it something that I don't want that I don't accept it? Because a lot of people have a hard time for accepting things that people want to give them. So I learned like if somebody wants to give me something good, I accept it. You know, like I don't have this, like oh, I don't deserve it, or anything like this. It's like yes, thank you.

Speaker 1:

And I'm sure that adds to your happiness, just taking it and saying thank you.

Speaker 4:

Mm-hmm.

Speaker 1:

What is the worst advice you've heard or received?

Speaker 4:

Worst one I think I don't know if it's advice, but I think it's when people say it's not supposed to be Like, when they just think that it's not supposed to be happening at all. Instead of, like we talked about before that, adjusting or finding different ways, or if you still release something that you want, then there's ways to maybe not to get this exactly the same thing, but something like this but just simply giving up because the reason of oh, it's not supposed to be happening, and then just giving up right away without even trying what is something that you used to value that you no longer value?

Speaker 4:

Those are hard questions. They're not easy questions, something that I valued before and don't value anymore.

Speaker 4:

Hmm, not to I. Actually there was one thing. It was like I was it's not. I don't know if it directly answers the question, but it was thinking that I have to prove that I can do it myself. And I've realized I don't have to prove anybody anything. I can accept everybody's help. I can ask for help. I don't have to prove to anybody that I have to be doing it all by myself. It's like just the realization that I don't have to first of all prove anything to anybody and a second part, that I don't have to prove that I can do it myself without help, because why wouldn't I accept the help? It makes things easier.

Speaker 1:

If you could describe what you would want your legacy to be, as if someone was reading it, what would you want it to say?

Speaker 4:

was reading it. What would you want it to say? I want it to say that I made people feel more joyful, more cheerful, more happy about their life, just even everyday life. Nothing doesn't have to be anything big that I just made them feel good for even for a moment or for the rest of their life.

Speaker 1:

That's beautiful. If you could create one law in the world that everyone had to follow, what would it be? And I want to know why.

Speaker 4:

One law. So that's really goes in my back, in my mind. That goes you know what that goes to actually towards something that doesn't connect to like happiness or any of this. It's more like serious problem in the world that goes towards sex. Can we talk about that in a show? The law would be that people are not allowed to have sex with somebody who is not 100% agreed to have sex with them. You know, like there's no children or people with disabilities or any of that type of abuse or something like rapes and things like that is completely, would be absolutely unacceptable, unless the person is agreed to whatever they're doing, but the person has to be able to agree and have agreed. That would be the law that I would like to have in the world.

Speaker 1:

Well, thank you so much for speaking with me. Yeah, thank you.

Speaker 4:

That was really good. I like the questions. They were not easy. It was really challenging and I was like, oh, I have to think about that.

Speaker 1:

I know they are challenging, thought-provoking, they make you think. So where can the listeners connect with you and find out more about you? They want to get in touch.

Speaker 4:

Right now, mostly from YouTube is good YouTube and, like the Brad Show, that's where I do my happiness. I'm starting my Patreon accounts, so there's going to be two different ones, one for happiness and one for n-dimensional perception, and also Twitter right now, same thing. I think it's Pirate Happiness because I'm using those platforms right now because I'm getting more like, tighter into not making my groups and like my followers in our groups. Okay, awesome, but I will tell them to like, follow in youtube and start from there yes, yes, definitely, and I will link that in the show notes.

Speaker 1:

I have tuned into some of your YouTube shows so they are definitely very informative, so I will link that in the show notes for everybody to connect with you. And do you have any final words for the listeners? No pressure whatsoever, but I do like to just spit it back to the guests for any final words that they'd like to share.

Speaker 4:

I would do two different things. First of all, I want to do what I do with all the guests that I have in my show, or, like now, I'm doing with when I'm in somebody else's show as well that I'll ask you, amanda, what makes you feel happier? What is happiness for you?

Speaker 1:

What is happiness for me?

Speaker 1:

Happiness for me is just living every day authentically to me, and that could be different every single day and I do think that is different every day, but again, just living authentically.

Speaker 1:

Even, like I mentioned going to cow yoga, and that's pretty prevalent in my mind because it's something I did just this month, but I had so many people say to me, why would you drive that far for yoga? And it's like you know, I'm still so happy over the fact that I did this yoga class and it's like, yeah, it took a lot of time from driving, from being in the class, but happiness to me is just embodying these things that I want to do. You know, for the longest time I spent time not doing things that would make me happy, either because of what people said or because people didn't want to do it with me, and that honestly decreased my happiness because I had more of the FOMO, like the fear of missing out, and it was like, oh, I wonder what this would have been like, rather than I'm glad I took the four hour trip for yoga, you know, and it just so that's what I would say what happened.

Speaker 4:

You created an awesome experience for yourself that you can have with you for the rest of your life. Whenever in your life you can go back to that moment that remember how cool and fun it was, and that will, anytime that you think about it in your life like 20 years from now, 60 years from now it will bring you a feeling of joy that you did it. That's why that could be easy, like the easy reason why you did it. The same gives me joy. I enjoyed it, I had fun. You don't need any other reasons.

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So that's one thing that I like always doing asking people what makes them feel, what happiness means them. And what I want to end with is to the listeners and viewers is to allow yourself to be happy. That's the most important. Allow yourself to be happy and feel that happiness feeling so just like, even if you start small and then just make it bigger and share it with your friends and family and share when they feel happy as well. So create that safe place for everybody to feel happy, Like men in a gym. Flex it out, show it to everybody. So show your happiness and share it with others.

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Well, thank you so much. I really appreciate it. Thank you, amanda, and thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Mander's Mindset. Thank you guys for tuning in to another episode of Mander's Mindset. I really hope you enjoyed this inspiring conversation with Pura and I hope it helps you embrace and cultivate more lasting happiness in your lives. Before we wrap up, here are the key takeaways from today's episode with Pyrrha, and here is a refresher on the five tools that Pyrrha shared with us, the first one being embracing all emotions.

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Happiness doesn't mean being joyful 24-7. Allow yourself to feel sadness, anger, fear, all of the emotions. Processing these emotions is a sensor to finding and cultivating harmony in your life. Next, notice the small moments of joy. Happiness is in the little things Walking your dog, petting your animal, enjoying your favorite drink, having lunch with a friend. Recognize and savor those little moments. They will help you through so much.

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Third, make sure to celebrate your achievements, the small ones, the big ones. Any and all achievements are worth celebrating. Even completing simple tasks is worth celebrating and building that positive momentum, congratulating yourself, saying thank you to yourself, saying good job to yourself and cultivating that positive mindset from what you are accomplishing. Fourth, it's really important to set boundaries with negativity. It's really important to set boundaries with negativity. You need to protect your emotional and mental well-being and your energy and the're able to do, but that means setting boundaries with them and not letting their energy disrupt your progress, your joy and your well-being.

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Last but not least, explore new experiences. Step out of your routine and the mundane and try something different. Try something new, whether it's something big, the mundane, and try something different. Try something new, whether it's something big, whether it's something small. This is how you create lasting joy and excitement. For me, as I mentioned in this episode, when I went to cow yoga, it was something super small, but it's still something that months later, brings me so much joy still something that months later brings me so much joy. You know, a big joy cultivation for me was when I took my trip to Bali. Granted, that was a big joy, but there are so many different ways that you can explore and embrace new experiences. Whether it's trying a new drink or going somewhere new, embracing a new wellness class, whatever that is for you, but exploring those new experiences and these five key things will really help you cultivate lasting joy.

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Again, one more time first, being embracing all emotions. Second, noticing the small moments of joy, celebrating your achievements, setting boundaries with negative people and, last but not least, exploring new experiences. So I'd love to know which of these five are you going to try first? Which of these five are you going to try first? Let me know on Instagram, at Manders Mindset, or on Facebook at Manders Mindset Podcast. I would love to hear from you or comment on the video on YouTube and, if you enjoy this episode, please rate, follow and share it with someone who could use a little more joy in their life. If you are on YouTube, be sure to subscribe. Leave me a comment. I'd love to hear from you. Thanks for listening and thanks for tuning in to another episode of Mandate's Mindset. I hope this episode helps you cultivate even a little bit more joy, happiness and well-being within your life. Thanks, guys, until next time.

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In case no one told you today, I'm proud of you, I'm booting for you and you got this as always. If you enjoyed the show, I would really appreciate it if you would leave me a five star rating, leave a review and share it with anyone you think would benefit from this. And don't forget you are only one mindset. Shift away from shifting your life. Thanks guys, until next time.

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